Monday, February 2, 2009

The 25 Things

It's all the rage on facebook-- posting 25 random things about yourself and then tagging 25 people to do the same... have been resisting this and not sure why. So this kid did what I normally do when I have a dilemma--went to the dictionary (I know-- you thought I was going to say I prayed about it. Nope! Dictionary fetish!)

Random, according to the great minds at Princeton means "lacking any definite plan or order or purpose..." No wonder this troubles my order-hungry, purpose-seeking soul! Just not into random, folks.

So, the first thing that came to mind was that:
1. 25 things is 24 things too many.

Now I will work on the rest of the list--in what order or for what purpose, I am unsure... but guaranteed I will keep looking for both!

2. When I was five years old, I came to love Jesus and told my Mom that I wanted to really be sure he lived in my heart. I worried about whether or not my heart was big enough for anyone to live there, but never told my Mom that. Couldn't figure out how someone as big as Jesus sounded could also be so little. Have spent the years since learning that little is good.

3. The next thing I did was drag my dear brother, Danny, to my Mother's knee and told her that he needed Jesus too and forced him to agree with me. No way was I leaving my best bud behind!

4. Not long after that, I also convinced my dear Danny that he could in fact jump over the rose bushes beside our front door -- an experiment which left thorns in his behind. I hope by now he has forgiven me.

5. I was afraid to go to school. Both kindergarten and first grade were terrifying for me. It so upset me to be away from home that I would become ill in the lunchroom and be sent back to the classroom alone. Never ate the lunch packed for me because I was too nervous to eat. One day my teacher found out that my lunchbox was still full of food at the end of the day and made me stand in front of the class and explain why. Awful, simply awful-- people were looking at me! Extroversion is a learned behavior for this little introvert.

6. Learning to read opened up new worlds for me and began a lifelong love affair with words. If you are looking for me, check the corner -- I will be the one with her nose stuck in a book.

7. See, I'm doing this in order!

8. Now for a random comment...I met my husband before I could talk. When I was seven or so, I declared to my Mother that I would marry David Milton when I grew up. She assured me that perhaps I would marry someone like him. It was quite a few turns in the road before it actually came to pass. But I am glad to be married to him... read some of my earlier posts and you will see why. He is one cool dude.

9. While we are on words, I became interested in the life and poetry of Emily Dickinson in the fourth grade. Fourth grade was my favorite year, I will never forget Mrs. Bren, feeling included for the first time and thinking maybe life was understandable after all. Of course that feeling fled before fifth...

10. My sister always got to do everything first...being the second child, I was, you guessed it, always second. At one point I complained to my parents that Janet would probably get to die and go to Heaven first, too. Several times, people have accused me of not being cautious enough and perhaps trying to ensure that prophetic statement did not come true. The jury is still out. And Janet is still out, ahead of me, but in a good way.

11. When my brother David was born, I insisted that I would be the FIRST person in the family to hold him...other than my sainted Mother, of course. He was just a couple of days old and in my eight-year-old mind I took charge of him that very day.

12. My Dad taught me how to drive a tractor when I was 12. It was a proud moment.

13. Oh dear, 13 and 14...very bad years for me. Couldn't figure out the early adolescent thing...had no clue about why the girls were acting that way-- or the boys either. You could not pay me to go back.

14. Oh my! I am not meeting the random requirement of this assignment, suddenly it has turned into a life history. So now for something totally different, may I mention that I love the number 4? Of course, just like the color blue, my littlest bro stole it from me as his favorite number as soon as he was old enough to count. But sorry, D. McG., four belongs to me...always has, always will.

15. Around seventh grade I decided that I would go to Wheaton College -- of course, I didn't make it there until after graduating from HS-- but I liked to plan ahead even then. My Mother attended there and it seemed like the thing to do. Loved it then and now. Took my little namesake niece, Laurel Hone The Cuter, there for a visit when she was 11-- maybe she will want to go too.

16. Flute, bassoon, saxophone, oboe, clarinet, and piano have been part of my musical education -- as well as singing. The Hone children were born in this order -- Soprano, Alto, Tenor, Bass...consult item number 10 and figure it out. Not bragging on this one-- I was always a mediocre musician, never a star and music theory? Well, let's just end number 16 right here.

17. In 2007 I helped plan, organize and also sang in a jazz festival in Morocco. It was an exhilarating and sometimes, exhausting experience... but the people who went with us were as wonderful as the people we met there.

18. Cross cultural friendships -- long history of these and so appreciate everyone of them, probably the result of having many international students and missionaries in our home going way, way back. I admire my Mother for taking an interest in internationals, teaching them English, and helping them adjust to life in a new culture.

19. Musicals, plays and acting opportunities were a focus of involvement in High School and later in community theatre after college...Nancy in Oliver, Fruma Sarah in Fiddler, Ado Annie in Oklahoma, and then there were plays. Oh yes, dancing and gymnastics were also early passions. Getting lost on the stage and being someone else... hmmm I need an analyst here!

20. Speaking of getting lost, there is a place in Minnesota that I have gone every summer of my life (except maybe one.) In my humble opinion, it is the most glorious place on earth-- the woods always welcome you back, comfort you when you are sad, and are waiting to fill you up with beauty and wonder. If I have a true home, it is there.

21. I can warble as well as any loon. In fact, when my loon call echoes across the lake, other loons answer me. I am quite proud of this.

22. Sorry Megan, I do enjoy sudoku! Two years ago, my DH gave me a book of 500 Mensa Sudoku Puzzles. Not sure I am Mensa material, because I am still only on number 334. They are much more challenging than most and when I close my eyes at night I still see the puzzles and numbers in my head. My favorite sudoku puzzles are the ones where I can fill in all the 4's FIRST!!!

23. In the past FOUR days, I have experienced the joy of reconnecting with some long lost cousins on facebook. Well, in truth, they weren't lost, I have not been a very good correspondent. But it did make me very happy to find them and now I have a dream of the whole extended group of cousins somehow being together on fb--sharing pictures and stories and memories.

24. The world's most wonderful beagle lives at our house. Her name is Daisy and she is a delightful companion. She'll be 10 in May...long may she live! Many days she sits by my side in the office and I balance with a beagle on one knee and a laptop on the other.

25. I love to hike, and yes, dear reader, I have climbed 3 fourteeners...I just don't talk about it much because it was during the years when I was also scaling some inner mountains. In the last 15 years my hiking has been confined to the flatlands...where I also found beauty in the prairie.

I consider myself to be blessed beyond all deserving with so many friends.
Thanks for reading this far. If you get here, you're it...I am tagging you which in facebook-speak means it is now your turn to post 25 scintillating-but-random things about yourself.

Just to make this totally embarrassing, here is my first grade picture -- taken before my rick rack teeth grew in!



Thursday, January 29, 2009

Wordle

Thanks to La Perfectionista for this...


Wordle: Scents & Sensibility


(click on it...)

Monday, January 26, 2009

The Rest of the Story on Scents...

For nearly a month, there's been an intention to blog... but as my Irish grandmother used to say, "Good intentions pave the road to h@##..." (She only started using that kind of language in her 90's -- but she was 4'11" of spitfire and quirky humor all her days.) Bottom line, intentions don't cut it. But there is another chapter to be told about the Scents & Sensibility post. And even thirty days or more after the fact, it is a sweet tale.

My DH (not to be confused with my dear DMH and my dear GDH) was touched by the Scents blog. In fact, he wanted me to send it somewhere -- he thought it should have a wider readership and he thought the message was important. Well, dear readers, if I can not get my act together to post a holiday blog, or a Christmas blog, or a New Year's list of resolutions, the chances of my chasing down publishing venues are slim.

Still, he really, really liked the post. So underneath the tree on Christmas morning, was a beautifully wrapped package -- all red and gold -- topped by a thick card. Upon my turn, I opened it (we may be lapsed Presbyterians, but we still do things in order--even on Christmas morning!). Inside the card was a copy of my blog and a message about how he had looked high and low for a perfume called 'Integrity' or 'Honesty' or 'Kindness' but couldn't find one. He wrote that he wanted to give me a perfume which reflected what he saw in my character. There were two he debated over -- one called 'Amazing Grace' and another called 'Beautiful'. In the red and gold box was a gift set of lotion, cologne and perfume. It is Beautiful to think that after many years of marriage your best friend can still look at you and see something of beauty. The discerning heart that sees what is important and the eager hunter that always finds just the perfect, reflective gift are two of the many reasons why I love my Dear Husband.

If there were a scent named for him it would be called The Best.



Sunday, December 7, 2008

Scents & Sensibility


Every year at this time advertising accelerates which means more catalogs and more perfume inserts falling out of them.



Yesterday, I decided to actually sniff at some of these inserts and found myself sidetracked by the naming of perfumes. Long ago, when my dear Mother was braiding my curly hair, there were two perfumes – Jean Nate and Chanel No. 5. She used one or the other to pat down the rosy frizzies crowning my head. Never gave their names much thought. Later on I began to notice other perfumes… Lily of the Valley (not hard to understand), Emeraud (okay…green bottle like emeralds), and then I encountered Tabu – a fascinating name for a fourteen-year-old. Tabu was the first perfume that got me wondering about scents and nonsense. The idea of smelling like something forbidden was quite delicious in my junior-high thinking… as long as that forbidden something actually smelled tolerable.



The years rolled and with them a range of names – some fruity – like Royal Lime and Love’s Fresh Lemon -- with the implications that limey equals royalty and lemons are the scent of love. Then came Love’s Baby Soft – who doesn’t love a baby and they are soft! There was also 4711 which I never understood, except that if Chanel could have a number 5, there were perhaps 4,706 other scents between the two including 1000 De Jean Patou, 12 Couturier, and 273.

There were the flower scents – Fleur de Desirade, Fleur d’Eau, and Fleur D’Interdit as well as the water scents – Cool Water, Eau de Soir and Eau Savage (what do savage waters actually smell like… a Minnesota pond in late August? No sale.)



Moving forward in life, I noticed that perfume naming branched out – Obsession, Compulsion and Secret Obsession hit the market – perfumes which had a corresponding diagnosis code in the Physician’s Desk Reference. Now one could literally, wear one’s issues on one’s sleeve. And then there are the subtle implications of smelling like Intuition, Happy, Splash, Splendour and Sensuous. One can choose between a drop of lofty, laughy or a little naughty.

Then came Eternity and Heaven. Perfume could be a spiritual experience that lifts one’s sight above that of human experience. Clothed in eternity, one hopes to reach heaven so these are scents that seem somehow, relevant.



Which brings us to yesterday. The first fragrance to fall out of the catalog was Unforgivable. What does that mean? Is the person who wears it is beyond forgiveness or is it unforgivable to purchase it – or not purchase it? What does being unforgivable actually smell like? It seems to me that being beyond forgiveness may actually have the scent of death about it. Does anyone actually want to smell that way? Isn’t being unforgivable a scary thing?

Perhaps it is too great a leap to jump from perfume to the Bible – although there was that woman who used a bottle of precious perfume on the feet of Jesus. Jesus was all about forgiveness and it seems He wanted us to be about forgiveness also. The Bible says there is only one thing that is truly unforgivable. I, for one, do not want to be known for that. Yet forgiveness is not a ride on a pink duck (to borrow a phrase) – sometimes it is easy to feel unforgivable and very hard to be forgiving. But do we want to smell Unforgivable?

Have we come to a point in our culture that being the bad man or woman is so alluring that we glorify it and name perfumes after it?



I would like my life to reflect a different aroma – perhaps a perfume called Integrity or Compassion or Faithfulness or Gentleness – but those fragrances are not to be found at the perfume counter and I wonder… Why?



The answer was found in the next fragrance leaflet falling from the catalog.

It was called I Am King.


Thursday, December 4, 2008

Google Analytics...

... do you have google analytics?

It is that helpful little program that fills one's life with all sorts of interesting statistics. For example, this evening I clicked on analytics and found a red 43.6 percent with a downward arrow. (Insert sad face.)

But my favorite part of the reporting is going in a bit further to read about visitors (Don't worry, it does not divulge the identity of blog visitors-- you, dear reader, may remain anonymous!) There are interesting stats, graphs, maps and categories -- the best of which is entitled:
Absolute Unique Visitors.
Isn't that a wonderful label?

After all, most people are absolutely unique in some way. It is a privilege to discover exactly what is unique about each person.

As we enjoyed an evening with good friends tonight, listening, laughing and sharing stories, I looked around the table and was struck with the uniqueness of each friend. We have different interests, backgrounds, and life experiences and yet the delight of being together, catching up and relating as a group was rich and satisfying.

In the analytics of my heart, the evening will be recorded as 100 percent with an upward arrow. I am so grateful for the gifts of authentic relationships, laughter, and the love of friends!

Thursday, November 27, 2008

15 Years of Thankful...

This is a significant day in our lives -- I am so thankful for the last 15 years. The ups and downs, the crazy pace, the people-packed years, the love, giggles, sobs, sighs, struggles, triumphs -- they add up and spill over with the sheer joy of knowing you are there, morning after morning, day after day, year after year.
You know who you are... and why I'm so thankful.
I'll keep showing up, as long as you are there!
H., H., T., M.,
L

Giving Thanks at All Times in All Places

Poised on the edge of great gratitude, the world news pops up on your screen and you read about violence in India... or just before bed, your stepson pops into the kitchen with a long face to tell you that one of his young colleagues was randomly, murdered last night on the way home from rehearsal. And the great swell of gratitude on Thanksgiving eve -- enhanced by the fragrance of freshly baked pie -- turns into a swamp of stinky despair and questions.

There are no answers for this type of evil and the contrast between this and the great feast we are about to enjoy in the name of thankfulness simply boggles the mind.

Yet we are called to give thanks... and when we can not -- when the journey is too incomprehensible we find it hard to mark the day with anything but sadness.
Gratitude is a choice.
When I do not feel it. I will do my best to choose it... and leave the rest to the One who already holds the outcome to all things in His holy hands.